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Couples Therapy

No one gets married to get divorced. But unfortunately, today, almost one in ten marriages end in divorce. There are many reasons for divorce. When we examine marriages with divorce, we see that some divorces are inevitable, while some divorces can be resolved before reaching this stage with a little effort and expert help.

The problems that the spouses experience and cannot solve between them are first evaluated by a marriage therapist who is trained and experienced in this field. In the following process, with some techniques specific to marriage therapy, it is aimed for the spouses to gain the necessary motivation to solve these problems, to gain a different perspective on the problems they experience, and to approach the other party with empathy and patience. In some cases, spouses may be given homework to practice at home. The aim of the whole process is to bring the relationship between the spouses to the least problematic level possible.

In Which Situations Should Marriage Therapy Be Used?

There is no marriage that is perfect and without problems. In every marriage, sometimes small problems and sometimes bigger problems may arise. If you cannot solve the problems you experience among yourself, even if they are small, and if you cannot fix your relationship with your partner in a healthy way, even if they are minor problems, for days; If you cannot argue without harming the other party's personality and you are not satisfied with your marriage, we can say that you should definitely get marriage therapy.

However, one point that should be taken into consideration here should not be overlooked; When spouses are in a difficult situation, they often resort to marriage therapy as a last resort before divorce. This situation seriously challenges the marriage therapy process. For this reason, you should consult a marriage therapist before these problems become chronic and relationship problems become unsolvable.

Main Reasons for Applying to Marriage Therapy:

• Lack of communication between spouses
• Families intervene in marriage and spouses cannot draw the necessary boundaries in this regard
• Anger management problems between spouses
• Cheating and infidelity issues
• Spouses not fulfilling their responsibilities
• Decrease in spouses' interest and love for each other
• Sexual problems between spouses
• Issues such as frequent arguments and resentments can be considered among the main reasons for applying to marriage therapy

What Not to Do in Marriage Therapy?

In some cases, spouses may have different expectations regarding marriage therapy due to the stressful situations they are in.

An expectation we frequently encounter is to see the marriage therapist as a complaint authority and to complain about the spouse to the marriage therapist.

Another expectation is to expect the marriage therapist to approach problems like a judge and give feedback on who is right and who is wrong. Another common problem is wanting the marriage therapist to make decisions on your behalf.

Another wrong expectation is that we will go to a marriage therapist once and everything will be solved. Yes, we would like to be able to solve all the problems in one session, but unfortunately, we do not have such an ability. You should think at least three times before going to places that claim to solve all your problems at once. Because scientifically, such a situation is not possible.

Marriage therapy is a process. It is very important for spouses to come regularly and do what is asked of them during the process to get positive results.